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Why allow apps to get in the way of love? Try the date-me-doc approach

It’s a more verbose way of finding love to the point of spilling dreams and desires that cannot be ignored

Mathures Paul Published 04.08.23, 08:13 AM
There is a large pool of people who don’t like to use dating apps. They may instead try something like Date Me Docs

There is a large pool of people who don’t like to use dating apps. They may instead try something like Date Me Docs Illustration: The Telegraph

Hot blood begets hot thoughts, and hot thoughts beget hot deeds, and hot deeds is love. If those words pop up on a dating app, wouldn’t it be a lovely match? But such chances are slim to zilch. Shakespeare would have had a tough time Tinder-ing but not so much had he taken to Date Me Docs.

It’s a more verbose way of finding love to the point of spilling dreams and desires that cannot be ignored. It can even be a 5,000 missive that somebody would love to go through with a fine-tooth comb. Remember, if somebody can put up with 5,000 words, it wouldn’t be far-fetched to find the person being patient in a 50-year marriage.

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Date Me Doc is often a Google Doc with a to-the-point title and it unrolls with all the typical information found on dating platforms — name, age, gender, sexual orientation and interest. But then it unrolls further, things get wordy and few things can be sexier than the perfect choice of words.

The view-only document gets shared on social media, hoping to meet responses that are on a similar wavelength.

Dating platforms are impersonal — swipe this way or that — but this is serious stuff. Don’t expect a Date Me Doc to fly all over the place — it’s mostly restricted to urbanites, mostly involves people in the tech sector or those who lead an anti-app life. There is always potential for such spontaneous moves. According to a Pew Research Centre survey from last year, about a third of adults in the US have used a dating app.

The mini explosion of Date Me Docs has much to do with a tweet by neural network engineer Chris Olah last year. He shared his desire to create a long-form, earnest dating profile. A Date Me Doc doesn’t have to depend on the weird algorithm of apps or the templates put forward by such apps. It’s a free-flowing approach and people are welcome to accept or reject.

Writing a profile is not easy, so making a Date Me Doc takes clarity. Take the example of PowerPoint presentations; you can snooze through it. Jeff Bezos created a unique way of holding meetings — instead of PowerPoint presentations, attendees come with a “narratively-structured memo”, offering clarity.

Brooklyn resident Steve Krouse has even tried to come up with a centralised database of date-me-docs last year. He recently told The New York Times: “You have to be part of a weird internet, open-source culture.” If not anything, such an approach at least tackles the issue of fake profiles to a large degree. Scammers probably wouldn’t like to spare the degree of effort Date Me Doc demands. mattered... when words mattered.

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