It seems like there are many dildos and vibrators available for women, but I’m really not sure what the options for men are. Are there any sex toys available for men? I’m not sure if a vibrator would work well on my penis, and I haven’t seen too many and I’m not sure where to buy them.
— Gadget Explorer
Dear Gadget Explorer,
Beginning your journey to explore sex toys can be daunting, but lucky for you, there are many options available for people with penises. Sex toys aka “massagers” can be a fun way to spice up both alone, solo-sex time and sex with a partner. They can add a variety of sensations – from squishy, to vibrating, to ribbed, and can stimulate a variety of body parts – from the penis to the anus.
Depending on what your likes and dislikes are you can try one of the five types below, along with some recommendations from start-ups* and small businesses* that sell these for you to explore what examples look like.
Low-tech, high sensation strokers
These are the most “bang for your buck” option, and a great place to start if you have never used a device before. Stokers tend to be a soft, silicone ‘sleeve’ with textures on their inside which can be used to stroke the penis. They do not require any batteries and can be simply used with any water-based lubricant. You can use these alone, or have a partner use them on you. Since these look like nothing but silicone sleeves, they are also easy to hide since they do not look like any genitalia.
Leezu’s Toofaan is one stroker that has super soft, stretchy silicone which is 100 per cent body-safe. While Leezu’s Toofan has a closed end, you can also explore MyMuse’s Jack that has three different textures and ribbed patterns on the inside.
Shine light on a ‘realistic’ experience with a fleshlight
If you enjoy the idea of simulating a more ‘realistic’ experience, you can look for a fleshlight that is designed to look more like a vulva on the outside and simulates ribbed feelings on the inside. They’re named for the outer design, which looks like a flashlight you can hold. They can come in a variety of sizes, colours, shapes and textures — and some come with automatic sucking and vibrating patterns. While they may be harder to hide, a few have more concealable designs which allow you to cover the vulva. Manzuri offers a wide range of realistic fleshlights, including options for fleshlights that can be mounted on a wall and concealed to look like a beer bottle.
Fleshlights are named for the outer design, which looks like a flashlight you can hold
Vibrators are for everyone
If you don’t want a more realistic-looking fleshlight, but still want some of the mechanised features, you can explore sleeves which have an internal vibrator to make the stroking feeling more intense. Just like any other vibrator, this is quite a different sensation from any type of “real” sex, but can still be a lot of fun! That Sassy Thing makes the Taco massager with an open-ended, adjustable sleeve so that you can adjust it around your penis to make it fit exactly around your penis regardless of its size. The Taco comes with a warming feature and seven frequency modes to its vibration, with some cutting-edge tech.
Anal toys to hit the p-spot
For people with penises, stimulation inside the anus can often unlock a whole new frontier of pleasure. This is especially the case when you stimulate deep inside the anus, especially on the inner-side that faces upwards. This inner area has a “p-spot” (aka the “male g-spot”) at the location of the prostate gland. Some even say that prostate orgasms can be more intense than penile orgasms!
When
using anal toys, remember that you (a) need to ALWAYS use lubricant – the anus
is very delicate and tears can lead to injuries, and (b) go slowly and stop or
slow down if there is pain.
Penis-rings to stay a bit harder
If you’ve never used an anal toy before, start by trying a smaller toy (e.g. a small sized anal plug) and then work your way up to larger toys. They can come in the form of anal beads, anal plugs, anal vibrators – the works. You just want to make sure whatever you use in there always has a flared base so that it cannot get stuck inside. Check out Lovetreats’ anal plugs and anal beads if you’re looking for some safe, non-vibrating starter toys.
Penis rings are little rings, often made of rubber or silicone, that work a little like a gentle rubber-band at the base of the penis. They constrict blood flow to the penis, helping it stay erect a little bit longer. Many penis rings also come with small vibrators attached to them, which can be turned upwards to touch the clitoris during penis-and-vagina intercourse, or turned downwards to provide some stimulation in the scrotum area. If you’re looking for a “trial” run for a cock ring, you can try out Durex’s Intense Vibe Ring. It is easily available at pharmacies, and is designed for a single-use only, offering 20 minutes of vibration.
If you’re looking for something long-lasting and reusable, you can try MyMuse’s Loop that comes with a textured vibrator.
While these are just a few examples of toys available for people with penises, it should be a good place to get started on your exploration. Toys have a little bit of a “get-to-know-you” curve, so give it a few tries with a relaxed, open mind when you do get one. Remember, not all toys are for everyone. If you don’t like one, perhaps another one is calling your name.
*The products and brands mentioned in the article are not sponsored plugs by the author or the publication, and are based on the author’s subjective opinion.
Karishma Swarup is a Kolkata-born and raised sexuality educator, Instagrammer (@talkyounevergot) and works at a global consulting firm. She busts myths about sex, pleasure, intimacy, orgasms, periods, and all things related to sexual health.
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