Love, Relationships and You... decoded the Sunny way’. That was the theme of a lively session organised by Young Indians — Kolkata recently, with Sunny Leone in the house. The actor-entrepreneur, who looks at motherhood as her most fulfilling role, had the full attention of an audience of 100-plus as she put forth her opinions on love, relationships, marriage and motherhood. Excerpts.
The real Sunny
Most people wear many different hats. In fact, most of us do various things during the course of a single day. Who I am depends on the time of the day. Being a mother is the role that’s closest to my heart. It’s the best role in my life. You may be having the most shitty day and then when you come home, your child smiles at you and says, ‘I love you,’ it all disappears. That’s the best feeling in the world!
Before the session, the members of Young Indians — Kolkata gifted bipap machines to 10 children battling rare diseases
‘I am my best me being a working mother’
My children often ask why do I have to leave them and go out and work and not be with them at home all the time. My answer to this is: ‘I am my best me being a working mother.’ That’s what works for me and makes me happy. But I also have friends who are amazing stay-at-home moms who are happy being a part of their children’s lives on a 24-hour basis. It’s an individual choice. At this time, we have a lot more women who are working and a lot more families are accepting this, especially in the metropolitan cities of India.
Desire and infidelity
Sunny with husband Daniel Weber, who won over the audience with his effortless sense of humour
For women, desire comes from the mind before it comes from their sexual organs, while for men, it’s mostly the other way around. My view on infidelity is that why would you do it... and even if you do, why would you be stupid enough to get caught?! Infidelity just doesn’t affect the partner that you cheat on... it affects your children, your family members, your mother and father, the other side of the family.... Then it affects the mummy groups, the daddy groups, the friends’ circle.... Now your friends have to choose which side they want to be on. I think infidelity is a selfish thing to do.
If you are unhappy in your marriage, go back to communicating and voicing why you are unhappy. Don’t be a coward and sleep with someone else!